The 7 Deadly Sins Of Recovery


You’ve likely already heard of the 7 Deadly Sins, but exactly how do they apply to addiction and recovery?


To be proud means to have an excessively high opinion of your self and to act with conceit, arrogance or vanity. Someone who is proud is very satisfied and that pride can often lead to justification for actions based in feelings of superiority. Pride is not always so proud, however. Often in recovery we face false pride. Though we come off as being prideful, we are ruffling our feathers, so to speak, where they don’t belong. Pride can usually be distinguished by action more than thought. Inherently, pride is a demonstration more than it is an internal feeling. [Read more…]

Abandonment Issues and Patterns


Asking for Help isn’t Pathetic, It’s Courageous!Almost nothing hurts worse in the most tender, precious part of our heart space, than being abandoned. Whether by a parent, a friend, a family member, or a spouse, being abandoned is an ultimate form of betrayal, which leads deep scars. “Abandonment Issues” are the residue left behind by a traumatic emotional event in which we feel we have been left behind. The pain of abandonment seeps into many of our thought patterns and behaviors. Abandonment by the hands of man often is reflected in our relationship with God. [Read more…]

For Parents: Carrying Responsibility and Accountability Back Into The Home


How can you as parents support the new life skills your children have picked up while in treatment for drug addiction or alcoholism? Learning to live with substance use disorder in a child or loved one has been a challenge. Together you have cried, laughed, learned, and grown through the therapeutic process of treatment. Now that treatment is over, your loved one is back in your care as they make their transition into living on their own without the support of treatment. Look to these suggestions for a loving approach to embracing new skills and forming your relationship in a whole new way. [Read more…]

The Shortage We Should Be Worried About Most


According to Huffington Post, mental health care services are on the decline. Between the seventies and the first decade of the new millennium, there was a drastic and devastating loss of help. Psychiatric focused, inpatient facilities dropped, reducing the number of available beds from 500,000 to 113,500. With a shortage of emergency psychiatric services, mental health patients who are in urgent need of care are left to the whims of medical emergency rooms. [Read more…]

Action of Compassion


Giving is a spiritual trend as much as a social one. We’ve been given the ultimate gift of life once again in recovery so we have a lot to give back. After early recovery, it isn’t enough to just be, we have to start doing. One of the best ways we can start doing recovery is by acting with compassion. [Read more…]

Maturing Through Recovery


“Getting sober” comes with one instantaneous drastic change. Through the grace of a power beyond our comprehension, which many of us choose to call God, we don’t pick up. In that first morning, afternoon, evening, or night, when the cravings come on, we don’t pick up. Whether we are at home, in detox, or in treatment, we stay firmly put right where we are willingly enduring the driving desire to use. Day by day goes by and we keep not picking up. From there, we see a giant ripple effect start to take place. [Read more…]

What is Addiction?


Addiction is a complex and perplexing diagnosis. Defining addiction is a means for understanding it. Here are some perspectives on what addiction is.

Addiction is… a mental health disorder

“Substance Use Disorder” is the term the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Mental Disorders (fifth edition). Substance use disorders can be diagnosed on three levels according to severity: mild, moderate, and severe. Severity is determined by how many of the listed diagnostic criteria are met. [Read more…]

You Don’t Have to Choose Between Your Child and Yourself


If you’re the parent of a child with addiction problems, you have probably received more than your fair share of “advice” from concerned friends and relatives. The following statements might sound familiar:

“You have to enforce consequences for his actions”
“She just needs some Tough Love”
“You should cut off all communications with him until he quits using” [Read more…]

Why Other People Don’t Have To Understand Your Addiction


Identifying as an addict or an alcoholic is about much more than qualifying at a sober support group or meeting. To admit that one has an uncontrollable problem with using substances such as alcohol or potentially life threatening drugs, is a matter of identification and belonging. Until we were thoroughly convinced that we were alcoholic or addicted, we likely did not think our problem was that bad.

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